Don’t wear uncomfortable shoes, even if everyone else is doing it. If you notice that you are comparing yourself to others, try asking yourself these questions: What do I appreciate about those people? How can I connect with or learn from them? How can I add value to their lives?ġ4. When we get caught in a web of thinking that we are better or worse than others, we usually end up depressed, anxious, and insecure. Try to connect with people in your first interaction, to make them feel your delight in them (even if you are scared to death).ġ2. Chat with people in elevators and in line at the store. Even if you didn’t intend to hurt that person, or you think they are over-reacting.ġ0. Your relationships with your family and closest friends are always more important than any achievement. Whatever you’re afraid of-that is the very thing you should try to do.”Ĩ. As Maria Shriver wrote in And One More Thing Before You Go, often “anxiety is a glimpse of your own daring. (Like when we are afraid of looking stupid and so don’t ask an important question.) Ignore your hesitation. Not-helpful fear, on the other hand, makes us hesitate rather than bolt. When you feel legitimate fear, run like the wind. Legitimate fear, like terror in the presence of a dangerous person, makes us want to get the heck out of whatever situation we are in. Know the difference between legitimate and not-helpful fear. Learn how to read your “ body compass.”ħ. Our unconscious mind is our best source of intelligence, but it communicates through intuition and bodily sensations, not words. You’ll know when something isn’t right for you because you’ll feel it in your body. Accept that well-meaning and loving people will sometimes give you bad advice. Other people offer us a different view we need their broader perspective to grow and improve.Ħ. Invite constructive criticism from the people who want the best for you. Especially ignore critics who seem delighted when you stumble.ĥ. Another person’s opinion of you is their business, not yours. Let go of what other people think of you. I promise you: Pretending will rob you of joy.Ĥ. It is better to be yourself and risk having people not like you than to suffer the stress and tension that comes from pretending to be someone you’re not, or professing to like something that you don’t. Do not ever waiver from this white lies and false smiles quickly snowball into a life lived out of alignment. Do the right thing even when the right thing is hard. Let yourself truly notice when other people are suffering. ![]() I would give almost anything to be able to have those precious months back with my other three children and not have the memories and guilt of leaving themĪnd “choosing” to be by my daughter’s side while she was stuck in a human incubator designed to keep the rest of the world away. But that is not what happened to us, and we must make the best of what happened.Show love and respect to others this monthĢ.Tolerate discomfort. ![]() I wish I could somehow remove all of the pain and suffering she endured during her four months in the NICU. I would give almost anything to have had a “regular and full-term” delivery and have that be the way my daughter joined our family after a three day hospital stay. It was almost like the day I gave birth, or the day when a new mother brings home her healthy new baby - a feeling of a new beginning and a fresh start. That day will be burned in my memory forever. September 9th marked the five year anniversary of the day my rock-star micro-preemie came home from the NICU. But, that all began to change in the fall of 2012. Joy’s extremely premature birth not only caused her to deal with a plethora of serious medical issues, but it also left me very sick and my three other children without a full-functioning and available mother for several months.
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